Secret Law of Attraction

Do you have problems falling asleep at night? Do you need a cure for your insomnia? As crazy as it might sound, try staying awake as long as you can and you might just find yourself slipping off to la la land. Do you think it might work?

According to Dr. Frankl and his mind technique called Logotherapy if you have a problem that you want solved, then try doing the opposite. You can read Viktor Frankl’s book Man’s Search for Meaning and learn about his amazing life and his Therapy. His approach may sound illogical but it might just work.

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How might you react if you believed someone  was being a bitc* by trying to break up your family? How might you feel? What are some of the cruel things you might do or try?

If you watched The Real House Wives of New Jersey the Reunion part 1 then you can see exactly how Teresa reacted when she believed Danielle was a bitc* and she was trying to break up her family. Teresa didn’t exactly act in a peaceful manor…did she?  

Was the act just for the show and possibly for the ratings? Yes, it is very possible. However, it gives us a good example of how our beliefs creates and prolongs hate, war, and all the nasty things we love to gossip about but really don’t like to experience in our own lives.

Is it possible that Teresa could have created peace instead of war? Yes, I think so.

Did she absolutely have to believe Danielle was a bitc*? How might Teresa react if she was willing to believe, “yes, Danielle could be a complete bitc* from time to time but not a 100% of the time”? Yes, it might be a stretch but is it possible Teresa could believe this thought instead. Isn’t it true that Danielle isn’t a bitc* 100% of the time especially when she is sleeping, or when she is with her beautiful daughters? Isn’t it possible that Danielle probably wasn’t a bitc* when she was a new born baby?

Yes, I am trying to get you to question the belief. If you can question a belief then it has to loosen its grip on you. If you can see that you don’t have to believe a thought then it can no longer have as much power and it becomes easier to release it. When you give yourself the choice to believe or not to believe a thought you give yourself the power to create change and in the case, the change from war to peace.

How might Teresa react if she could believe the thought “Danielle can be a complete bitc* from time to time but not 100% of the time”? How might she feel and respond to Danielle? Do you think she might be calmer and keep her composure? Does believing this thought help create peace or war?

Could Teresa be courageous enough to believe this new thought? Yes, and we all can. We all have enough strength and enough courage to believe a new thought.  It might be out of the norm to create peace instead of war but it is well worth it. What does hate, anger, and revenge, create inside our bodies when we consistently experience them? What does lovinginess, compassion, courage, and peace feel like in our bodies when we experience them? What are the advantages of peace vs. war?

If we want to create peace then we have to be the stronger person and purposefully believe thoughts that create peace even when creating war seems good for the ratings.

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How does Michael Douglas help us by being optimistic even when he might be facing the toughest challenge of his life?

The other night I flipped on the TV not realizing the volume was on low. I watched Michael Douglas smiling and exuding positive energy as he talked with David Letterman. I turned up the volume to hear that Michael Douglas might be facing the toughest time in his life.

I couldn’t believe he was so positive and strong during an extremely challenging experience. I wanted to cheer for him and I noticed myself start to smile. I felt my own body come alive with strength and energy just by watching and listening to him discuss his health challenges.

How does being optimistic influence others? Do you think it helps others discover their own strength? What do others learn about themselves when you remain strong and positive during challenging times? What if you make someone smile, why is that a good thing?

What does optimism teach you about strength? Where does strength come from?

Where does healing come from? Is it possible that optimism helps the cells of our bodies become more receptive to healing?

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The Fear of Success can stop us in our tracks but you don’t have to let it. I read this article by Bill Cole who is an amazing writer on peak performance and he shares some common fears of success and how to cope with them.

The Fear of Success- How to Overcome It

Is the fear of success real? How could anyone possibly fear such a wonderfully positive thing as success? As strange as it sounds, many people do fear success. This fear holds them back from achieving their goals and dreams. It may sound more reasonable to fear failure, and not to fear success. What is this all about? Here are some reasons people fear success. Think these through and you’ll begin to resolve these issues within yourself.

1. Change Itself Is Scary: it’s easier to maintain status quo and go along unthinkingly. Life is easier when we can live it on auto-pilot. Change brings us into the unknown with its mix of exciting adventure and scary possibilities.

2. People Will Expect You to Succeed Again: there is a new pressure to perform to a level that was not there before. You are aware of people watching and waiting for you to repeat your success.

3. The Bar Has Been Raised on Your Performance Levels: your old habits and processes will not work. You have to change familiar and comfortable ways of being for the new.

4. You Will Get More Attention From People: if you are a private person, or are not used to having an audience, this will take some adjusting.

5. Your Private Life May Suffer: athletes and movie actors who make it big complain that they have privacy no longer and that they must hire security and worry about financial and personal safety issues.

6. You Question If You Can Do It Again: you may wonder if the first victory was a fluke the next time you perform, and if you fail, people will say it was an accident. This puts added pressure on this second performance and takes away the value of the first performance should you fail.

7. Your Time Demands Will Change: you have less time now because maintaining new levels of performance bring new demands on your time, new details you’ve never had.

8. People Expect You to “Be” a Certain Way Now: famous stars in show business are expected to be big tippers or to sign autographs, and if they don’t, are denigrated. People have a set of expectations about how you should behave in your new position.

9. It’s Harder to Stay at the Top Than to Get There: it was tough succeeding, but repeating it is usually even harder. It takes more time, more planning and with your new distractions and obligations, keeping focus is even more demanding.

10. You Make Enemies When You Perform Higher Than Them: you may leave former peers behind, symbolically and literally, when you raise the bar. Many people may be happy for your success and others feel slighted and envious.

11. Being a Success Can Limit You: when an actor hits it big in a role, they are forever remembered as that character-and if they don’t manage their career well, they will become type-cast. When you do a great job on a project, you might be known as “the one” to do this job for eternity because you are “so good” at it.

12. Being a Success Changes Your Self-Image: perhaps you’ve always wondered if you could succeed at something. You may not have felt worthy of this success. People may have told you, covertly or overtly, that you don’t deserve success. You at least know your place as one who is average. When you succeed, people will look to you for advice, leadership, as being a model of virtue and you will forever change how you see yourself.

Read more of his great articles at www.MentalGameCoach.com.

Copyright © 2005-2010 Bill Cole, MS, MA. All rights reserved.

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Could beauty, peace, enlightenment and emotional freedom come from illnesses? What can we learn from enlightenment from Jill Bolte’s experience? You be the judge.

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Do you think this story is a miracle or was something else at play?

I recently heard about Jean Hilliard who’s neighbor found her almost frozen to death and she still fully recovered.

Jean’s car had skidded off the road one very cold winter night in Minnesota. She ended up walking 2 miles to her neighbors house but was 15 feet from making it to the front door when she collapsed.  It wasn’t until the next morning when she was found and taken to the hospital to thaw. Do you believe that she lived and recovered without amputation?  Read the story here in the NY Times

Was this a miracle? We want to hear your thoughts.

Do you have a story to share about miracles? We want to hear about it.

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I was watching the Real Housewives of New York and I saw Luann de Lesseps perform her single “Money Can’t Buy You Class” at her launch party. As I was listening I thought to myself “hmmmm, not so great!” but a few things dawned on me about success and pursuing our dreams.

You don’t start out being the best- You just have to start

You don’t’ start out being the best.  You’re not supposed to be the best in the world at first. HELLOOO…you just started!   You’re not supposed to know everything, besides it’s impossible to know everything. LuAnn is not the best singer in the world but she sings anyway. She goes for it! She puts her “everything” on her sleeve to do what she loves doing regardless that she not the best. You got to do that too….unless you don’t. The fact is, she will get better and better by doing more and more.

Fear Makes the Body Go Loco

You may feel a lot of fear when you are pursuing your dreams but don’t let it stop you. Yes, your heart may feel like it is going to beat out of your chest, your hands will sweat, your mouth will be as dry as sand and your voice will shake…but that’s just the name of the game. No one ever said that going after your dreams was a cake walk.

The law of attraction says that it will help you get what you want and it will orchestrate events and circumstances for you but it does not say that you won’t feel like you are going to pass out when someone laughs at you from time to time. It does not say that you will not get embarrassed or that your heart will beat super fast.  Reality is, exhilaration, and passion mixed in with a little bit of fear does crazy things to the body and that’s ok, you got to pursue your dreams anyway.

Disgusting Sweat Pays Off

Be willing to work hard even day and night, and with that comes a lot of disgusting sweat but eventually you wiill get what you want. Just because the law of attraction is on your side doesn’t mean you don’t have to learn, practice and try and try and try and try and keep trying until you get what you want.  

Remember it took Thomas Alva Edison 16,999 tries and 4 years before he finally discovered the substitute for rubber. That is only about 11.6 different tries a day for 4 years. It took him how long? Yes, I said 4 years!  The law of Attraction worked for Thomas Edison too and he didn’t manifest his goal in one day, a week or even a month. Be committed to the goal and not the time it takes to see the goal manifest.

Make Your Own Opportunities

LuAnn and Thomas Edison did not wait for opportunities to land upon their feet. They made their own opportunities not by sitting on the sidelines but by jumping into the game with a full splash. You can do that too. Once you get into the game you may realize that it is so much fun and then look back and wonder why the hell it took you so long. Be courageous and let yourself live. The universe hears what you are wanting and it gives it to you but it’s not as exhilarating just thinking about it. Don’t wait until tomorrow or when you are smart enough, rich enough, talented enough or know all the right people but start today. Get off your ass right now, stop reading this blog and do the tiniest thing you can towards your goal.

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Jerry and Esther Hicks tell a story about having a tree near their house that blocked their view of the ocean. They expressed how they wanted to see the beautiful ocean without the tree being in the way. However, they couldn’t cut or trim the tree because it wasn’t on their property and the other people involved didn’t want the tree removed or trimmed. 

Esther and Jerry did everything they could to express what they wanted but at the time nothing could be done.  They didn’t want to force, bully or manipulate anyone or anything into removing the tree but instead wanted to see how things would unfold because they knew the power of the Law of Attraction. Then one day a storm knocked parts of the tree down and to make a long story short they had their view of the ocean.

Yes, forcing and manipulation does seem easier at times but they come with heavy consequences

Sometimes it seems that it would be much easier and quicker to force, bully or manipute others into getting what we want but resorting to these measures comes with a price. The first thing to keep in mind is that it doesn’t feel good to bully, force and manipulate people. How do you feel when you take these type of actions to get what you want? How does you body feel and where do you feel it?  The second thing to notice is that when we use these tools for getting what we want we end up making people resent and sabotag us. If you want to learn more about effects of bullying and manipulating others to get what you want read The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene .

You don’t have to use force or manipulation to get what you want. Instead, use your strength

Your strength is your knowledge and use of the Law of Attraction. Once you put your requests out to the universe they are heard and immediately the universe goes to work orchestrating events and circumstances that allow you to have what you are wanting. Yes, it make take quite a long time for things to show up but when you do see them, they will have shown up right at the perfect time.

Do you have a story to share about using the Law of Attraction instead of forcing or manipulating others to get what you want? We want to hear about it.

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What is a poison thought and how does it sabotage me?

A poison thought is a thought that is designed to cause pain and suffering within the body when it becomes activated. Not only is it designed to cause pain but it is also designed to move you away from whatever it is you area wanting.

How do we know if we are believing a poison thought?

The quickest way to find out if we are believing a poison thought is to determine if it hurts when we believe it.  For instance, a few poison thoughts might be “I can’t, this is too difficult”, or  “why bother, life is too hard”. Just ask yourself, “How do I feel when I believe this thought”.  If we feel any kind of pain like sadness, grief, anger, and so on when you believe it then we know it is a poison thought.

In addition, ask yourself “What do I do when I believe this thought”. If by answering this question you notice yourself stop from moving forward or stop yourself from taking action then it is a good indication that it is a poison thought.

How do we release a poison thought?

You cannot push against or resist a thought because it only keeps the thought activated even more. For instance, don’t think of a white elephant. Right now, don’t think of a white elephant. What happens when I ask you not to think of a white elephant? You think of it more, don’t you?

If you want to release a thought the solution is to think another thought instead. Let me give you an example. If you don’t want to think of a white elephant then think of a blue tiger instead. Notice your mind shifts to the new thought of a blue tiger. Let me give you a real life example. If you are believing a thought like “I can’t, this is too difficult”, try thinking the thought, “yes, this might be difficult but I am willing to give it my best shot anyway”. Notice, that as you think this new thought, the first thought releases. In other words, the mind lets go of the first thought and the new thought becomes the main focus.

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Why don’t we heal and if we do happen to heal why does it take so long?  

 Have you ever had an event that lasted for 10 minutes or less and it caused emotional pain that lasted for years after the event occurred? Why do we suffer for years with emotional pain? What stops us from healing?

 For 32 years I carried the pain of an event that lasted for less than 15 minutes and I got to a point where I just wanted the emotional pain to be gone. I spent a few years doing everything I could to heal the memory including going to many spiritual retreats. For some reason this particular memory would consistently bring up fear, unworthiness, grief and sadness every time I would think about it.

 Yes, I have heard that I shouldn’t think about things that are painful but this particular memory would spring up from time to time and the emotional pain associated with the memory would affect parts of my day. Not too long ago I did heal from the memory but it left me with a question.  

 Why did it take so long for me to heal?

Healing may not occur because of our beliefs about healing.

 I was afraid of healing because I thought it meant that it was “OK” that it happened.  I was afraid that if I healed I would be living in lala land and my judgment of right and wrong would somehow vanish. Now, I realized that I can be at peace, joy, happy or loving and still know what is right and wrong. Even after the healing I still know how I like to be treated and how I like to treat others.  

 Another reason I believe it took so long for me to heal is because I was afraid that if I healed it would make the people involved better than me. Now I realize that happiness feels better than worrying if someone is better or worse than me. It’s not even an issue I want to think about now.   

 I also believed that if I healed then it meant that I would be letting people off the hook or that I would be letting them get away “it”.  Again, my judgment of right and wrong doesn’t go away when I am happy, at peace, or feeling joy and neither does my ability to express how I like to be treated, how others should be treated or what I want done. The only difference now is that if someone is not doing something as I prefer then I can gently express my thoughts about it and feel happy, joyful or peaceful doing it. Being at peace and feeling joy and happiness doesn’t mysteriously put duck tape over my mouth.   

 I had this thought that it was not good to admit that I could be hurt. Admitting to myself I could be hurt meant that I was a weak person and so it was not an option. However, I noticed an experience of relief when I was able to admit to myself the truth. The truth was that I was hurting and I was part of the human race.

 I also thought that happiness, joy and peace meant weakness because it meant that I wouldn’t be able to stick up for myself and others around me.  I thought that peaceful, happy, and joyful people didn’t care what others did to them or what is happening around them. After the healing I realized this is quite the opposite. With these feelings I do have preferences of what happens in the world, I do care what happens to me, I do care what I do in the world, and I still want to express my opinion of what is right and wrong. 

 Now after the healing I noticed that I am even stronger. This strength that I experience does not take away my preferences and it doesn’t stop me from doing what I want to do. Before the healing I mainly communicated by yelling, manipulating, and forcing people to do what I wanted them to do. Now I feel happiness by expressing with a strong calm voice, persistence, courage, inspiration, lovingness, and by example.  

 What is your experience with healing? What has stopped you? Please share your ideas and experiences with us.

Please visit these website for more information on how to heal Byron Katie, Lester Levenson and Release Technique, Anthony Robbins and Regina Dawn Akers.

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